I gave until I broke.
I performed until I forgot who I was.
I abandoned myself so no one else would.

That was my pattern. My prison. My life. Running away to the other side of the planet did not change a thing.

After being hit by too many emotional tsunamis, I threw it all in the back of a 4WD and drove across Australia. Actually, I never stopped crossing it.
I was alone. Terrified. Heartbroken.
But free.

Free from the story I’d been telling myself for years: that my worth was in what I gave away.

The Outback stripped me down to the essentials. Layer by layer, until there was nothing left to hide behind.

And when everything was gone, I found the one thing I actually needed to survive, not just in the desert, but at work, in relationships, in life: myself.

Because out there, no need to perform. No one to impress.
Just be you. Raw, untamed, unapologetic.

I broke the cycle. And you can too.

Now I share my journey to help women stop self‑abandoning before they lose themselves trying to be enough.

Hi, I'm Stella Smith

1 in 5 women are drowning in anxious attachment

Perfection steals your identity when you’re terrified of being left behind.
Authenticity restores it.
Burnout isn’t failure. It’s the signal you’ve lost yourself chasing someone else’s approval

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